Episode 58: How to Leverage Your Cycle to Increase Time, Focus & Energy with Renae Fieck

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This week on the podcast, I sat down with mom of 3 and occupational therapist, Renae Fieck. Renae is an expert at helping women optimize their time and energy by unlocking the power of their monthly and annual cycles. 

Renae’s work allows you to truly understand where the magic lies, and schedule your life accordingly. Inspired by her own desire to live a more peaceful and connected life, she helps women balance the demands of life, make a bigger impact, and get bigger results without adding more stress or needing more time.

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In this episode you’ll hear:

• Renae shares the science behind masculine and feminine energy cycles and how that shows up in your life. 
• She discusses our history of pushing to gain access to the masculine world. 
• The process to shift from pushing past excuses to being lit up by the pleasure and joy of business and life. 
• How to optimize your schedule and sync it with your cycle. 
• The ins and outs of your cycle and what that means for energy and time. 
• The struggles of an irregular cycle and how to sync your body’s rhythms with the moon cycle. 
• How understanding the female hormonal cycle empowers you and the women in your life. 
• Teaching your daughters and sons, to support optimal health & well-being. 
• The actual breakdown of how your cycle works and what you can do when to optimize your life. 

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3 Key Ways Your Cycle is Impacting your Life: https://renaefieck.com/cyclesyncbiz/ 

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Transcript

Pam: 0:03

This week on the out of your mind podcast, I had the opportunity to sit down with Renee Fieck. Renee is a mom of three. And occupational therapist and she helps women optimize their time. And energy through unlocking the power of their cycle. So that they could be thriving high achievers. Through her method. She helps women balance the demands of life. Make a bigger impact and get bigger results without adding more stress. Or needing more time. So if you're looking to literally transform. The way that you operate. This episode is for you. Let's dive in.

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Renee, thank you so much for being here with me today and for your willingness to come on the podcast and share your story and talk about all this really amazing cool work that you're doing. Of course. It's such a pleasure to be here. So I would love for you to share with our audience what got you, what brought you here, like how did you land where you are today, what is your story, your evolution in this? Oh my goodness. Do we have all day? No, I'm kidding. I think that, just as a general, like we have so many different pieces of our journey and so many things that get us to where we are. I think for me, the biggest component of it was that when I was pregnant with my littlest, she's six now. I found out my husband had a brain tumor and got my dream job all in the exact same month. So May of, what is it? 2013 was like, or no, 2015, may of 2015 was like crazy. Everything hit the fan that month. with all of it happening all at one time, and I think that was the year that I really had this moment of realizing we only live one. And you are never guaranteed tomorrow. And so are you really living a life that you desire and you want to live. And I, up until that point, I had spent so much of my career and so much of my life trying to get this like dream job, getting it, being there, having all this medical stuff, having a brand new baby, all of the things together and saying, this is really not how I wanna spend the rest of my life. This is not what I wanna be doing. I decided I wanted to create a life that had more freedom. That really was about, this is your one life. You are never guaranteed tomorrow. And so I started in on a network marketing company, found myself hustling and working so hard and exhausted and it was not worth it in the end. And got into there and realized like there's a whole world of creating possibility. There's so much available to me. So I pivoted into running my own business, launching my own products, doing my own thing, but carrying with it that same mentality, that same work ethic of hustle, and work really hard and go really hard and stay up really late, get up really early, squeeze it into the cracks. and got to a place that I realized I was not really building that life that I wanted. I was focusing on the one day, someday down the road that might happen, like that dream, that vision that you have. But at the moment, I was sacrificing so much of my current season and my current life, and if anybody has kids, like they grow up so freaking fast. And so I was focusing so much of my energy and time on the future that I was sacrificing my hearing now. And that's. I had learned about how women operate with time very differently. Men have testosterone that replenishes every single 24 hours, and so they have this wake up and feel good every day. And then they have their energy low during the as it goes through the day, whereas women have estrogen and progesterone that shifts and changes throughout the month making how they function the month very differently. And that's when I stumbled across. and started working in adjusting my life to lean into that and found that it just created so much more rhythm. It made it feel like I could push really hard and have these really hard seasons of go and push, and then also have that element of pulling back, savoring the moments, enjoying the time, and had this like balance. And so that's where. I made that big shift in my own life, but still that was not what I was teaching in my business. And then over the last couple, probably the last year, I've made a full transition into really helping women do that as well in their business. It's been so much, and that's Synopsizing, what, like 10 years of my life into maybe not that much, but so much of my life into, three minutes. But it's, it is about this journey of transitioning through so many different experiences. You and I were just talking about it, like all the different experiences that we have kind of shape where we are today and, but that I think was my biggest one. Often what I see with other people that do this kind of work or, when I've read books about this work as well, I'm super excited to be talking about some of this stuff with you. But is that not only about our energy cycles as women and what that looks like with our hormonal cycles and balancing all that stuff, it's all, it's also much easier for us to burn through. like our adrenals and our nerve. And our nervous system gets fried and haywired. And so the, was the journey for you an intellectual journey, like you learned about this thing and you were like, that's cool, I need to do that? Or did you st have any struggles that you experienced during your times of stress? I think overall, like just as a woman, like I was exhausted and I was feeling like I just didn't have the energy. And I, and coming out of the network marketing space that I was in was Beachbody. So even in that, I was very focused on eating well and drinking well and sleeping well and so I had a very body focus in the very be then at that point in time. Some parts of it probably weren't healthy. It was probably putting a lot of stress on my body, But there was this element of like I was doing a lot to take care of my body physically. Yeah. And doing really well to support it in that way. It was more of the sanity piece of the other side of it, of working really hard. And never feeling like I really had time for pleasure. And that's honestly, that's one thing that I've enj like learned so much this year, is the value of pleasure and joy. And especially as entrepreneurs, that is one area that most of us like sacrifice and let go is like the fun and the. Play and the pleasurable things because there's such a hype on work and on productivity and on focus and get it done and be consistent and just work through it. And some of those like mantras and the motivational speakers are like, if you don't do the work, nobody's gonna do it for you. And if you don't push hard, like somebody else is not gonna do it. And it's, so much of it is about this push and go and start like push past your excuses. and for me, I found so much of my creativity, so much of my passion, so much of my drive comes from like within of having this like pleasure and feeling lit up from the inside out. And me and my business, that's like huge component of what drives me and that creating that balance in business and life is like, you have to have those pleasurable things, those restorative things, the recharge, you have to have all of that because that's what gives you the fuel for your business. So if you really wanna do really great things, you have to do that. And I. Reiterated even more so for me in this last year, seeing other business owners like other really big female entrepreneurs that I've been watching. They've been going through this like burnout season and they've pulled back. They're like, and they've, some of them have even come out and talked about it of this like that. They worked so hard and they pushed so hard and they reached this really high level of success in their business. But they got to a place where it just became like, is this really even worth it anymore? And so for me it was like, I never wanna build my business that way ever again. Like I was in that moment. I've been in that space. I don't wanna do that anymore. And. I've been like, I saw Jen Casey said something the other day about she feels like she wasted her twenties, and I feel that way. I'm like, I don't wanna ever look back and regret that, that I wasted my time when my kids were little. So for me it was more of the cognitive, emotional, like sanity component than necessarily the health piece. But I come outta healthcare, like I work in, I work a couple days in the hospital still, and so I have a very acute awareness of how the body piece component goes into. Yeah. Yeah. Cool. So it's interesting because as you're talking about this stuff, you're talking about as entrepreneurs, there's also the role as mothers and if you're working outside of the house in anything I'm thinking about the women that I've worked with through the years that, that kind of take on this this masculine energy so that they can compete in this, in a marketplace. In a corporate America or wherever. And how that is of of not, of service to us as women. Yes. Yes. And I think for so long, like historically we had to, we had that was in order for us to get in, we had to prove ourselves that we were worthy of being able to succeed and that we were just as capable for men. And now I, when I was looking up some statistics recently, I think it was like 50% of businesses are female owned at this point in time. And. One that really excites me, and I think that's amazing and wonderful, and I also think it's such a great opportunity for all of those women to now say, Hey, we get to define how we run our business. We get to define how we do this, and we can do it a whole different way. Like we're not trying to fit in with. This business, and we're not trying to climb the corporate ladder in, so this male run business like you are creating your own business. So when you look at that, like what is your ideal life? What is your ideal structure? What is your ideal way to do it and build from that? Because we do have a lot of strengths and leaning into our cycles and our phases and like getting out of the idea, we have to be consistent every day. We really can perform and work much better. but it's about backtracking and really defining that from this like feminine place versus and I am very much like we have to ride the line of the masculine and the feminine, right? There's components of both that we need in order to be successful. But I think for so long we've been pushed on this far masculine side and that we've had to deny the feminine. And now it's Hey, how can we bring them together and pull the strengths and the skills and the benefits of both so that we can be really successful, but feeling like it doesn't burn us to the ground in the process. Yeah. And and this is the work that you're doing right now. right? You're teaching women how to do this. So can you talk about that a little bit? Yeah. The idea that like And as I was reading through your stuff and as we were hopping on the call, I was, I brought back to the book Do Less right? That goal. I'm sure you're familiar with And I would love for you to chat a little bit about this process of how the cycle works. And one of the things you talked about was like or you mentioned was how do you recognize within your cycle, when's time to have difficult conversations? When's time to. take self-care and what different types of self-care that all of these pieces are, can be integrated in. your own personal cycle. Yeah. Yeah. So well going back for like body-based approach is that men have testosterone, it starts relatively high in the morning. It goes up and down, and then wa but it like generally declines that the day goes on. So you know, if you have a husband or spouse or partner, whoever who works outside of the house. And then comes home at the end of the day and then parks in the driveway and sits in the car for 30 minutes before he comes in the house. And I remember as like a mom, a stay-at-home mom with three kids, and I would just be like pulling my hair out. And then I'd be like, why have you been sitting in the car for 30 minutes? Like I needed you. But that was his like low point and he needed a little bit of a recharge, a little bit of a pick-me-up before he could come in or the guys that sit on the toilet for an hour, like same idea, like that is their mo their moments of pick me up in their recharge in that 24 hour day. Women, we have estrogen at the first half of the month. It's more dominant, and then progesterone is more dominant the second half of the month. And both of those are very different in the way they make you feel. So estrogen has this I feel so great, I'm ready to take on the world. Let's get big projects going. Let's, start New Year's resolutions. Let's do all this Do it. Like it's got such a great momentum. And then progesterone has more of this like natural calming and it makes you wanna slow down and it makes you wanna focus on the details and maybe really not talk to people and be a little bit more emotional sometimes too. And When we look at how that impacts women throughout the month, so much of the messaging that we're getting and so much of how you build your business is based in this consistent and consistency, and that's how men operate. Men are very consistent from day one to day 14 to day 30, like. they don't have very many big fluctuations in their momentum and their motivation and all these things. But women, we do. We are very different. So what I do is help women look at where those phases are and know. If you put your something on your calendar for day 21 in your cycle, this is how you're going to feel. It's gonna feel very different than if you do it on day seven of your cycle, and knowing where to put things based on that. So the first kind of breaking it down into those four phases for you, the first seven days is what I call the recharge phase. So that would be when you're actively bleeding. and that focus is all about recharge. What do you need to recharge yourself? Because you need that recharge before your next phase. It may look like resting, it may look like going for a hike. It may be spending time with your family. It c and it could look different month to month. But the whole intention is how do I recharge so that I have the stamina, the fuel, the energy behind me for the whole month? it's a great time to take a look at your goals, your intentions, like what's the plan, look ahead. I think that's one of the biggest things I see most entrepreneurs struggling with is like setting that plan ahead of time and actually sticking with it and having a plan that works for them. And so that's a really great time to have that intention. Then you move into where estrogen's picking. Future accelerate phase, and it's really what, that's what it feels like. It feels like acceleration. It feels let's get this thing going. Let's get things up. You've just set those goals, you've set those ideas, and now let's like take big action on them and get them going. So it's a great time to. Tackle some of those big projects or things that maybe you didn't really, you don't like doing, but you, so you need a lot of that big momentum and motivation behind to actually get them done. It would be a great time to do those things then and really get them up and then you enter into your ovulation phase. So I call that the connect phase because you are ready to connect with people. You're most magnetic, like biologically, you're trying to attract a mate, So you're like telling the world like, come make a baby with me regardless if you're like actually trying to make a baby or not. But that's what your body is biologically trying to do. And so you're the most magnetic, the most radiant, the most on fire. Like you can connect and communicate more articulately than any of the other phases. if you wanna go do like photo shoots or record videos or social media, all of that type of stuff, it's like really key to do it in that phase because you'll be that glowing sort of sense. And then when estrogen dips off after ovulation and progesterone kicks in, That is what I call the reflect phase. It's the phase where most of your limiting beliefs will come up, most of your doubts, most of your fears, mo of your emotions. But it's also a really powerful time for writing content and connecting with that ideal person that you wanna connect with and feeling what she might be going through or he, and being able to write that and to be able to express that. There's a lot of really big benefits in that, and a lot of times, I think that's one of the things is like, is women, we've been ingrained societally to see that period phase and that hormonal P M S E like phase, if you would call it that as a negative thing that these are hindrances in women's lives, but yet, They're in fact not, they just have different things that you need to be focusing on and doing in that phase. And when you really lean into, Hey, this is my phase. I'm gonna pull back, I'm gonna give myself a little bit of extra care. I'm gonna focus on doing writing tasks instead of trying to be really vocal and trying to be, all shown up on video or I'm not gonna push myself really hard in this phase. I'm gonna do it in this other capacity. each of the phases really does become a productive phase. It's just like redefining what productivity is and redefining what tasks are getting done in each of those phase. And it really helps women get more stuff done and less time. So if you've ever had that time where you sit down to write something, like emails or content or whatever, and it feels like, gosh, it just flows. And then you've had other times where you sit down and it feels like not a single word is coming out and you're like, rewrite rewrite, pounding. Like why is this not working? It is likely due to these phases and likely due to just those feelings and. Same thing. There's times where you're gonna fo show up on camera and you're gonna feel like, wow, I did that really well. Like that interview was awesome. And other times you're like, dang, I just stumbled over my words. I didn't say what I really meant to. And it likely has to do more with these phases than anything else. So Interesting. Yeah. So how does this work for women that maybe. have irregular cycles for whatever reason. So first off, I would say it's probably important to figure out why they're irregular. For a lot of women, they're probably irregular because you're living in more of this masculine rhythm and your body is really smart and really adaptable, and it's trying to live into the habits that you give it. For instance, if you were doing intermittent fasting and you normally were waking up at eight to eat breakfast every morning, and then all of a sudden you're like, Hey, we're gonna switch. We're gonna start doing this intermittent fasting, we're not gonna eat till noon. And so you stop eating at eight. eventually, or like initially, your body's gonna say we're hungry. And eventually over time, your body's gonna stop sending you that cue at eight o'clock because it's learned Hey, we don't eat until 12. Let's stop being hungry. We don't eat till 12. And your body, your hormones and things like that does the same thing. So if you are living into this more masculine rhythm or. Having a lot of stress and cortisols really high, all of those things are gonna impact your cycle and make your cycle irregular. So sometimes some of the clients I've worked with even just like adapting and starting to almost impose these four rhythms, four phases on their life. even if it doesn't entirely match up, what happens is that their cycle starts to regulate with it because it's oh, this is how we're supposed to live. This is how we're supposed to do things, and it can start to regulate itself. There are lots of other reasons why that might not happen. Whether or not you're postmenopausal or you're pregnant or you're cycles irregular for some other medical reason or anything of those nature, and for those women, I oftentimes recommend that you follow the. The moon has the same 28 day cycle as women normally, like a typical, normal cycle would have. Yep. And I find that when women do that, Initially, you might not notice it right away, but over the course of time, your body again learns and you start to feel those same rhythms. Even if it's not hormone based, your body will learn like this is the rhythm. And it really just makes a huge difference in the way people, or the way women function like we were made to be in this more of a cycle. Not even just like the monthly cycle, but we have like yearly cycles too, right? Like the world operates in rhythm. We have seasons, we have all of these things. Like I got, I've realized like I get sick the same week every single year. Like we have cycles and rhythms in our world that I think sometimes we're not even really paying attention to. And as human beings, like we function better in rhythm and cycle. So if you u if you don't have a cycle, Are your cycles super irregular? Then that would be my recommendation is to start living into those four phases and let your body start to adapt to that. Okay? And so when you talk about the four phases, if like in sync with the moon, just just to Specify there. Yeah. When you're talking about that, where does that cycle begin with the lunar cycle? Yeah. So the new moon would be the same as your recharge. So when the moon is dark and absent, essentially would be like your pull back time. And then when the full moon is here, think of that as like your glowing ovulatory phase, like that's when you're shining brightly and all of that. So the new Moon would be that recharge. your, I don't even know, like the growing moon. I don't know if it's waxing, right? Waxing moon would be, I'm like, is it waxing or waning? I think it's waxing. The waxing moon as it's like moving to a full moon would be that accelerate phase and then the full moon is your ovulatory, and then as it's waning away would be your reflect phase. Perfect. Yeah. Just so if people are like, wait, okay, yeah, I can, I'll see up with the moon, but how do I do that? Yeah. Yeah. It's so fascinating our cycles and how it impacts so much. Everything, so much. Everything. I remember when I was. Like freshly postpartum, which probably had a whole lot of other hormones at play. But I got so mad at my husband, I like threw a shoe at him from across the room. And I remember him like looking at me dumbfounded, being like, you just threw a fricking shoe at me. What the heck? What is wrong with you? And it was like my hormones were probably all over the board, but looking back it's oh, I was probably in that reflect phase, like when my body was like crazy off the charts. We just don't realize it. And so when we realize it and we know it, then we can start to adapt for it, and we can start to be like, okay, this is where I'm at. This is what I need, this is what my body needs to help it regulate and not have such wild, crazy swings. Great. Yeah. And one of the things that you talk about is self-care in this cycle. can you talk about that a little bit? What does that look like? B, both for entrepreneurs, but also as moms, we need self-care. Yeah. Big time. Yeah. Definitely. So your recharge phase and your reflect phase are the phases where you need the most. Self-care. It's the phase where I call, it's like your introverted phases. they are the phases that are focused more on pulling energy back into you versus the other two phases or your outer phase. They're focused on projecting out pushing products out, pushing. Ideas and projects and things out connecting with other people. There's a lot of push out in sending energy out in that phase versus the recharge and reflect are really focused on inward. So it is about looking at what do I need to re refill my battery and pull some of that energy back and feel rejuvenated. The other piece is like that reflect phase. I know for me, particularly in many of my clients, like you can get easily triggered. Like it doesn't take much. The kids could leave their shoes by the front door and you're like, why? Why don't you just put'em into the basket? And that one little thing can send you into a huge meltdown. Versus other times it may be like, that's no big deal. I'm just gonna help them move the shoes. Knowing that's where you're at, you. I oftentimes encourage my clients to infuse so much more self-care in that time, and especially if you have things that fall outside of when they're supposed to, right? If there's something on your calendar that is in one of those reflect phases. Like even for example, right now I am in my reflect phase. This is not my best time to be on camera or doing a podcast or any of those types of things. But for me, this is the only thing on my calendar today that's like a very different experience than if I had a full day of stuff today. I would be exhausted and wiped out at the end of the day. So it's like learning how to stack your calendar so that you almost build in that self-care from the very get-go. It's this is my light week, this is my easy week. Whether it be workload, or actually embedding some of that self-care in or knowing Hey, I'm gonna let myself sleep in. I'm gonna let myself go to bed a little bit early, knowing that in this phase my body needs more sleep too. So it's It's less about being like structured of this is self-care. This is how I'm gonna do it. It's more of you know what, this is where I'm at. I'm gonna, I'm gonna let myself just read a book today. I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna be stressed about it. And I think that permission to lean into that and not feel guilty is what really makes such a huge difference for my clients because they realize it's not like I'm just. unmotivated, or I'm not being consistent, or I'm not, doing these things. It's no, this is what my body actually needs in order for me to be really successful in that next couple phases. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. And I love the idea of giving yourself permission. Because I think as women we tend to not do that. We tend to expect and some of it might go back to like our, the way that we've been socialized. You need to be productive and this is what productivity looks like. and these are the things and, but being able to just step back and embrace the Yeah. The. Self care. Yeah. Then you'd be gentle with yourself essentially. Yep. And I oftentimes use like two different analogies that I'll give both cuz one might resonate with somebody more than the other, but like the idea of a slingshot, a slingshot doesn't shoot very far. unless it pulls back, right? If you just have the rubber band and you put the rock there and you don't pull it back, like the rock just falls out and it falls right in front of you. But if you pull it back, it gains that momentum and that strength for it to shoot really far. And so thinking about your life that way too is like that pullback becomes an essential part of being able to go really far and to be able to do a lot, and to be able to have the stamina and the endurance and all those types of things. The other one is the idea of a Tesla. That a Tesla is an incredibly fast car. We have them everywhere here in San Diego and you can go really fast and really far with them, but eventually they do run out of battery and if you don't recharge them, it doesn't matter what you do, they're not gonna keep going. And so the recharge like is an essential part of making it so that Tesla can go really fast and it can go really far. But either one, right? Both of them, that recharge or the pullback is an essential part. It's not the lazy or the, you're just not working hard enough or you don't want it bad enough, or you're y is just not big enough which we've heard, right? So many. That's the messaging that we've heard is you have to have a stronger why. If you're, why strong enough, like you'll push past all those excuses and it's. Well, No, like your body actually needs this in order for you to be able to do what you wanna do. So lean into that instead of feeling like it's you just not having what it takes. Yeah, and it's interesting too that like the timeframe right? Because you said one of the things that happens in the last phase. Just, typically society, we call it like PMs, right? Air quoted that for anybody that can't see me, but yeah, the. that last phase is where like self-doubt and insecurity and fears arise. Yeah. It's the timeframe when we're like, when we're struggling a little bit more, our emotions are a little bit bigger, we maybe need a little bit more breaks. So that idea of the idea of the guilt and the, all the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves showing up in that timeframe when. Maybe I'm just like spitballing here. Maybe if we gave ourselves permission to do the pullback then some of those stories about ourselves would start to dissipate. Because we're g first of all, giving ourselves permission so we don't feel guilty about doing it anymore. And then also we're giving our body what it needs. Yeah. For the next phase. Yeah. For where we go next. Wherever that. Yeah. And I think another big part of it is that so much of what I've learned is so much about our success is about our identity and what we think and believe about who we are. And that phase oftentimes does there's been so many times I'm like, I can't do this. I'm a horrible mom. I'm a horrible business owner and I'm a horrible like wife and I'm like horrible at everything. If we're in that phase and we let those thoughts then become like subconsciously part of our identity. Those are gonna then shape the way we show up in the next month. But if we know that's what's happening, we know Hey, this is hormone based. This is where I'm at. I know I'm struggling a little bit more right now, but I know in a week from now I'm gonna feel fine. Right now I'm gonna lean into and say, okay, what can I learn about what I need right now versus letting those thoughts become part of your identity. I think that is one of the most powerful things that can change how you move forward. And I always look at the our cycle as this upward spiral because as we move through each month and we let go of some of those beliefs, we let go of some of those doubts. We let ourselves lean into it and process through it, versus feelings just so overwhelmed by all of. That's what helps us uplevel each month. And I will throw this in there too, if you have daughters. This I think is, I was just thinking Ah, like I have an 11 year old who's getting there. Like she's starting to go through, like I can see the hormones coming already, but I look at as a therapist, like I worked at Children's, right? So I've worked with children, I understand it, I understand development. All these things like the teenage, pre-teen years are so foundational for identity. They are trying so hard to figure out who they are. and that identity exploration, right? Like it's such a vast amount of years, but they're trying to figure out who they are. And as girls there's this element of like hormones playing such a huge piece of that. That. Like my daughter, I hear her say, I'm no good. I suck at school. I don't have any friends. Like all these types of things. You as a parent have the opportunity to help show her, Hey, this is hormone related. This is where you're at. I know next week you're gonna feel great. You're gonna feel like, yes, I do have friends. Yes, I am doing great. And let her. Not form those thoughts as a part of her identity so that she doesn't carry those with her for the rest of her life. Like I guarantee if you and I like really spent some time like doing therapeutic work, we'd probably find I pieces of our identity today who we are like. 30, almost 40 years old, probably came from those teenage years. And so to be able to know that and to be able to help her disassociate these are not who I am. These are just thoughts and feelings and I don't need to own them as a part of my identity, I think would revolutionize and transform the next generation coming up. And. I get really passionate about it, not just as women today and like the women in business right now, but gosh, what could we do for the next generation of women that are coming up behind us that could lean into this from the very beginning and not feel like there is shame and there is guilt, and there is all these things like they could just. Do it a whole different way. But I remember growing up having my mom be, so I have a 13 and a half year old, she'll be 14 in March and she is definitely within this and she's far beyond. She's got her own technology. She's got her own like watch and phone and whatever, and she'll be like she'll I'll say, is your a period due just like having a conversation with her. And she'll be like in four days I'm like, huh, what? I'm not that good with my cycle. Ok. So she's far beyond, she's who she is, right? Yeah. And, but I remember growing up and my mom, like if I had an emotion, if I got upset about something, it was like, are you PS always. And I've worked so consciously hard at. trying to educate Marlene and help her understand, cuz she, so at 13 and a half she has her own gluten-free baking business. Cool. If she wanted to. And but there are times that she's in the kitchen that she gets really overwhelmed and then she gets frustrated with herself. She's like, why am I overwhelmed by this? I don't understand. And so we do look at her cycle and like, where are you And this is such great information. whether we're using it for ourselves, hopefully we're using it for ourselves, but for our daughters. Or young women in our li young beings, young women that are growing up in our lives. Yeah. To be able to help them to understand themselves a little bit better so that they don't, when they're 40. However, the whole heck old I am. That it's not a, it's not an internalized story. It's not an intern internalized story that like, oh, I'm feeling an emotion, so I therefore I must be p m s. And that's a bad thing. There's something wrong with me because of that. Yes. And even if you don't have girls, like you and I both have girls, but like I have a son and I want my son to grow up knowing that it's normal and like how to support the women in his life. To feel those things and to move through that and to not put this stigma or this stereotype on oh, it's your period, oh, it's your hormone. And that's the other thing I think a lot of people think oh my, my period is just like five days or four days, or whatever it is of the month I just have to put up with. And one like it's just this nuisance that I have to deal with when in fact it's this. Like production all month long and your period is just the crescendo. And I find that most of my clients tend to once they learn this and start living into it, the negativity and the like, oh my period's here. That all goes away. It like completely transforms the way they look at their body and their whole, how the everything runs. I don't sit there and look at my period coming and being like seeing it as a negative thing. Like it becomes this, oh yes. Like it's a whole new refreshing, like we've got a whole new month coming. Like it's got, it changes the way we look at it. Whereas most of society is not that way. And so even for men and the boys in your life, Or your, your sons, like helping them be able to acknowledge and be able to help support the women and not create that stigma and that like nuisance, like it's a hindrance in their life can be really powerful too. So I love all of that. Thank you. Yeah. What is the work that you are doing with women right now? You're referencing the stuff that I do with my clients. What are you actually, what are you doing? What are you offering right now for the women that you work with. Yeah, so I work with particularly women in business, so a lot of like solopreneurs or. Budding emerging entrepreneurs that are working really hard. They're like seeing some success, but it feels exhausting. It's like a lot of work and things just don't feel like they're clicking in the same way that they want it to. It, it's, like I said before, sometimes we get into being an entrepreneur and realize, gosh, it didn't give us the freedom we really wanted in the first place. And so it's really about using these cycles to help create that freedom right now. So keeping your business moving forward, keeping things growing. Also, there's a huge focus on enjoying the here and the now and in this current season and in this current moment. That's a lot of what I do. Working with them, looking in the, like the nitty gritty of like, how do we actually schedule your days? How do we schedule your month and look at that like where things are going. And then also that bigger element of looking at business strategy. So like I said, the just in the cycles that we have in the month, we have them in the seasons. And so oftentimes that same for women throughout the year. It was like looking at your whole 12 month plan and are we really setting your business up for seeing that growth and seeing that success and still. Having those seasons of being able to pull back and go have fun and have vacations and things like that. So it's helping them structure their time and structure their business in a way that allows that for that to happen. Yeah. So you're, so the work that you're doing, just to reflect on this for a moment the work that you're doing is you're helping us as women see this Monthly cycle. On the benefits and the ways in which you can utilize it to expand and flourish and also care for yourself and all those things. And also taking that into kind of the 12 month perspective. From a, because I definitely live in a place where there's four very distinct seasons. Yeah. Like you were, we were talking about, you're in Southern California. I'm in, New Hampshire. I'm in the Northeast and we are like, on our way, everything's dead and dying and we're on our way into winter whether we want to be or not. And so there's that component too. You thread throughout the work that you're doing with people. Super cool. Yeah. So if somebody wants to work with you how do they do that? How would they find you? What does that look like? What kind of programs or offerings do you have going on right now that Yeah. People could work with you with? I would say depending on when this airs, our podcast takes a pause. Cycling We take a pause in December and a big part of that is because of that win winter season, it's time pulling back and taking that. And so for me that was one area that I do that. But there's tons of content still on the podcast at the Cycle Advantage that you can go and binge listen to and then jump in with us fresh when we jump in January. We also have our group program, your Cycle Advantage. It's only open a couple of times a. So if you go over and check out re renee vic.com, you can learn a little bit more about that and get on the wait list for when that would open. I think we might run a special training at the end of January that will maybe have the doors might open around that time. And then I definitely work with women one-on-one and really integrating that full 12 month plan and helping them support them in that way. So those would be great places if you are brand new to all this. And this is whoa, I did not even know this is a world. I do have a three step guide that talks about three ways your cycle is impacting your life in business and it has a cycle tracker in there, some of the ins and the outs of the basics. So that would be a great place to go and you can get that at https://renaefieck.com/cyclesyncbiz/ Nice. I'll link all that stuff up so people can find you easily in the show notes. If you're listening, you're like, wait, what was that? I missed it. It's in the show notes. Go check it out. Awesome. So where are you hanging out online? Where can they, like if somebody just wants to consume content, follow you and be a groupie, where do they, yeah. I know you and I have a mutual coach that has been pushing TikTok and so I jumped on the TikTok bandwagon and I actually really enjoyed TikTok. I feel like it's been one of those areas that's allowed me to just play and have fun and not worry about do I have proper lighting? Do I have proper am I saying it correctly? Am I I just let it be. So if you want more of the real and the raw, and. Behind the scenes, then I would say TikTok is a great place to go. Find me if you want something that's a little bit more polished, a little bit pumper together than Instagram, but those really are the two places I enjoy hanging out. And you'll find me like swinging more towards one and then the other one and then back and forth, and But those are my two places. Yeah. I, that's not surprising, right? You're just talking about cycles and seasons and totally makes sense that you'd be like, this one's really fun. This one's really businessy and put together and polished that you would swing between the two. That's super cool. That shows up that way. Like you could, you can definitely tell, it's like certain times I'm like, I just don't really wanna be on Instagram at all, and I'll just chit chat and random and like binge on TikTok. So it's Yeah, it probably is a cycle actually related and I just haven't really paid that much attention to it. It would make sense though because all of the platforms are similar. There's lots of differences from that pers from the perspectives you were talking about, and one definitely is geared towards although there's business stuff on it, is definitely geared towards fun. Embracing that, so yeah. I love that. Thank you so much for being here and sharing all of this. It's been amazing and su such amazing information. And like I said, I'll link up all your ways to contact you and all your information in the show notes so that people can track you down. And guys, if there is something specific that you would love to share with either Renee or myself, we would love to hear from you. And so I'll also link up the way for you to tag us on Instagram if you wanna share something in your story and tag us. Who would love to hear from? Yeah. Thank you so much for having me. It was such a pleasure to be here. Yeah, thank you. And thank you guys for listening. I appreciate the hell out of you. And I'll see you guys next week. Take care.